Please don’t say the phrase “Aggressive Kids”… Kids aren’t usually intrinsically/ eternally aggressive. They are only aggressive if they enter the F response of trauma.
There’s always a reason for a behaviour, but by saying the child is aggressive instead of the behaviour you are removing that reason. You are blindly assigning a personality trait instead of trying to understand the child or the underlying issues.
Would you like it if I said teachers are aggressive? Of course you wouldn’t, you’d become defensive or you might become angered due to that remark – but you inherently aren’t aggressive – something said or done to you or around you caused you to act in a certain way.
Don’t be an ignorant person and say ‘aggressive kids’ – say instead: “this child is acting aggressive at the moment, let’s find out why”. Or… if the child always seems to be aggressive… say: “this child is always in fight response of trauma – why? What is it about this school or what has happened to this child that has caused this nervous system response”.
When you call them aggressive you are the problem – not the child. You are forcing them to also defend themselves against your bigotry and ignorance using that phrase. A child that is told they are always aggressive will stay in the fight/flight response in order to protect themselves…. You are creating your own aggression loop. STOP the loop… step back – see it as a nervous system response, not as their perpetual character or ‘who they are’. Noone is forever aggressive… if they are, there’s a reason. If they are only aggressive around you – then it’s likely that you are causing the aggression.
Is there anyone you feel more likely to be aggressive around or to? Do you realise the reason for it? Is it because they treat you badly? Is it because they’re a-holes? Is it because you don’t like them? Is it something else? Are you irrationally aggressive around them?... I seriously doubt that you are ‘irrationally’ aggressive, or have 'no reason' to be aggressive with them/ towards them.
Truly think about it – if you are not ‘irrationally’ aggressive – then it’s likely that other people aren’t either… stop thinking irrationally - and stop thinking that children are irrational when they show aggression... instead: find the reason why… and remove the trigger.